The mud & mire of dating

“I waited patiently for the Lord; He turned to me and heard my cry. He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire; He set my feet on a rock, and gave me a firm place to stand.” Psalm 40:1-2

Dating is hard.

Finding that person you could see yourself spending a lifetime with is difficult.

I don’t think, even after two full years of meeting guys, excitement building in my heart, and then the inevitable heartbreak, it’s supposed to be easy. If it was easy, everyone would do it and stay together.

It’s work.

It’s hard work.

And sometimes you go through a heartbreak that completely, well, breaks you. You relate too well to the broken heart emoji because that’s what it feels like, your heart has been split in two.

You may think your life is over; in those moments, you may feel like you’ll never find love, that perhaps you’re not even worth loving, that all those love stories you hear will never be one of yours.

You may come to peace with the idea of doing life by yourself because this world’s version of “love” is cheap, heartbreaking, cruel so why would you want anything to do with it?

I know what that feels like because I’ve been there (for 25 years). I’ve battled those thoughts and had days where waiting patiently on the Lord like David recalls in Psalm 40 was hard, near impossible some days.

But, I can also tell you that you ARE worthy of love. You are worthy of respect. You are worthy of a man or woman loving you deeply and wholeheartedly, “forsaking all others” just for you.

And, for some of us, that type of love may not come in a significant other form. That love may solely come from the Creator Himself.

And guess what?

You already have His love.

He does love you wholeheartedly, so much so that Jesus died on the cross for YOU, rose from the dead and is coming back again for YOU.

That deep love is found in Him.

He first loved you, even before you ever accepted Him and His love.

He. loved. you.

And He loves you still.

While you are waiting, you may be heartbroken. But have faith, dear one. Give your heart to Jesus for Him to transform completely.

God has a way of rescuing us from the mess we find ourselves in and puts us on solid ground: clean, whole, pure and deeply loved.


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