We, especially as women, always seem to have a plan.
Whether it’s a plan revolving around school, work, life, even a trip to the grocery store, many times we will have a list, a plan in our hand or our minds on how a particular part of our lives is supposed to play out.
But when it comes to loving others, do you have a plan in place?
When someone is rubbing you the wrong way or pushing your buttons or is just an unhappy person to deal with, do you have a plan in place that no matter what THEIR actions are, YOUR actions are going to be to love?
It’s a hard thing to learn and practice, how to love someone in your life who’s difficult to love. But, if we have a plan in place, it’s easier to follow that plan and save ourselves the stress of flying off the handle and then regretting it at the end of the day.
Maybe your plan for when someone says something mean or a back-handed comment, is to go to the bathroom, close your eyes, collect your thoughts, and breathe for a minute or so.
Maybe when someone tries to give you even more work or won’t pull their share of the work, you have a comment ready that’s more loving than “you lazy *insert mean words here*”.
I know even thinking about how to love someone difficult can be irking. Trust me, I’ve been there and sometimes still slip into that disgruntled, “I don’t WANT to love them.”
But, aren’t we as a society, and especially we as nurturing, mature women, supposed to put out as much good into the world as possible?
When I do stop and think about the impact of me loving that person (no matter how small that impact may be), it sure makes me feel a lot better than putting out even more negativity into the world, even if loving that person right now is a bit on the more difficult side.
Ultimately, when we love those who don’t love us, our light within shines even brighter. And isn’t that what’s most important?
So, what’s your love plan? Share in the comments below!
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