The latest scandal circulating the pop culture interwebs is that of Giuliana Rancic’s comment she made of Zendaya’s hair choice during the break-down of fashion on E!’s Fashion Police:
Rancic made a public apology, citing the incident and the learning experience she gleaned from it.
Zendaya, a platinum-selling, 19-year-old artist took the high road and to Twitter:
While it seems things between the two women are reconciled, there’s a deep issue that hasn’t been addressed. Yes, the public took the comment as a racist, cultural jab and in all honesty, I agree.
But, I’m also surprised at the other big problem that hasn’t been cited from what I could see, one that has been rooted in our culture for so long and is now celebrated and touted as a wonderful thing on multiple networks, media, etc.: Women bashing other women.
Not for what they do, which is way more important and the only thing that matters after all your time is used up, but for how they look.
We scream for equality, attacking men when they objectify women, but aren’t women doing the same to other women?
We have shows dedicated to focusing on just what women wear and far too few about the positive impact women make on the world. And, if those stories actually do circulate, there are comments on the woman’s age, her look, etc. Magazines are stuffed to the brim with “headlines” of “Reese Witherspoon in tank top and no makeup” as if that’s news.
I think the issue here is the idea perpetuated by society, shown on television, of women sitting in their leather chairs, legs crossed, looking down their noses at other women. And yet we want equality.
Equality and unity will not come until we stop the bashing. Stop the hate. Stop thinking it’s “fun” and “in jest” because it’s doing a lot more hurt than realized.
There’s a verse in the Bible where Jesus says, “For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of” (Luke 6:45 NIV), which basically means whatever is in your heart will come out of your mouth. If you speak hate, you have a heart full of hate. If you speak love, you have a heart full of love.
Which heart are we commonly speaking from? One of hate or one of love? Criticism or encouragement? Darkness or light? Does the society we have created reflect love or hate? Are we okay with what it reflects?
Are we, as women, portrayed as kind, compassionate, and encouraging to every woman or are we portrayed as haughty females who rip their manicured nails into others’ self-esteem?
And, personally (and rhetorically), what kind of woman are you? Which woman do you relate to most?
Let’s talk in the comments!